The "What Happened To Me Today" Thread

[wunch]

Loofahs do not come from the sea… like sponges do.

gardenerspath.com/plants/vegetables/grow-loofah/

Wtf? I actually learned this a couple weeks ago, but damn, still shook. It took me a bit to accept this reality. (This isn’t one of those Mandela effects, right?😂 )

Just good, old-fashioned ignorance.

Who knew this?!

[matty]

Wait..no come back…please don’t…leav-


🙄

[emily]

litirally nothing.

been such a dull day

[sparrow]

Dec 11, 2021 20:53:47 GMT -5 matty said:

Wait..no come back…please don’t…leav-


🙄

I'm trying to get over the realization that Em doesn't care about me. I thought we had something real.

[matty]

Dec 12, 2021 12:46:41 GMT -5 sparrow said:

Dec 11, 2021 20:53:47 GMT -5 matty said:

Wait..no come back…please don’t…leav-


🙄

I'm trying to get over the realization that Em doesn't care about me. I thought we had something real.

Canceling my flight to Detroit as we speak 😔 

can you return duct tape and body bags? Asking for a friend 😇 

[me]

Danced to Killer today at my dance class with my little dancers! I’m so happy Em finally has a good dance song! And a clean version for little kids
And we were ready to start dancing and
I go: five six seven eight
And at the same time Em goes: five ten fifteen twenty

…

And I’m all confused, forgetting my choreography, like what the hell are you counting?? Lol

[annie18]

Tha's so cool!!! 

[matty]

You guys I need advice

So in November I got a new job in tech but it was contracted role (but I took it cuz everyone said I will be onboarded and everyone in my department was once a contracted and go onboarded within a year and it paid way more than I was making prior even as a contractor). And the past few months I have been working 10-12 hour days to finish this almost impossible project and finally finished and I think really impressed my team.

However, the organization of all of the departments I worked with was a nightmare and it was super stressful but I was able to pull it off but with sleepless nights but again with a lot of stress

So while going through this I got poached for another job and I got the job offer Thursday (not contracted). The pay is pretty much the same (2,000 yearly difference) but with a 5 k sign on bonus (so only one bonus not yearly) but again its NOT in tech and I probably won't be getting a lot of raises- its not that type of company but it seems more chill.

I always wanted be in tech cuz that's where the money is at (and my taurus ass LOVES money- its a bad trait of mine lol I admit) and if I do get on-boarded I will most likely be making more by like 20-30 grand. And right now I still have benefits but shitty benefits in comparison to what the Tech company provides but the new job gives pretty decent benefits as well.

So do I take the more stable/reliable route - aka the new job with better benefits than the contracted one or do I stick it out in the tech world for the potential money and even BETTER benefits?

I can't make decisions to save my life and told the new company I will let them know by Monday. Please help.

[Admin]

Apr 16, 2022 15:44:34 GMT -5 matty said:

You guys I need advice

So in November I got a new job in tech but it was contracted role (but I took it cuz everyone said I will be onboarded and everyone in my department was once a contracted and go onboarded within a year and it paid way more than I was making prior even as a contractor). And the past few months I have been working 10-12 hour days to finish this almost impossible project and finally finished and I think really impressed my team.

However, the organization of all of the departments I worked with was a nightmare and it was super stressful but I was able to pull it off but with sleepless nights but again with a lot of stress

So while going through this I got poached for another job and I got the job offer Thursday (not contracted). The pay is pretty much the same (2,000 yearly difference) but with a 5 k sign on bonus (so only one bonus not yearly) but again its NOT in tech and I probably won't be getting a lot of raises- its not that type of company but it seems more chill.

I always wanted be in tech cuz that's where the money is at (and my taurus ass LOVES money- its a bad trait of mine lol I admit) and if I do get on-boarded I will most likely be making more by like 20-30 grand. And right now I still have benefits but shitty benefits in comparison to what the Tech company provides but the new job gives pretty decent benefits as well.

So do I take the more stable/reliable route - aka the new job with better benefits than the contracted one or do I stick it out in the tech world for the potential money and even BETTER benefits?

I can't make decisions to save my life and told the new company I will let them know by Monday. Please help.

That is a tough one. I tend to go with the less stressful options, that's just me. BUT it seems like you may have gotten through the worst of working for this company, and you want to be in tech. So it might be worth seeing this through. It's your decision, do what works for you.

[bekind]

Apr 16, 2022 15:44:34 GMT -5 matty said:

You guys I need advice

So in November I got a new job in tech but it was contracted role (but I took it cuz everyone said I will be onboarded and everyone in my department was once a contracted and go onboarded within a year and it paid way more than I was making prior even as a contractor). And the past few months I have been working 10-12 hour days to finish this almost impossible project and finally finished and I think really impressed my team.

However, the organization of all of the departments I worked with was a nightmare and it was super stressful but I was able to pull it off but with sleepless nights but again with a lot of stress

So while going through this I got poached for another job and I got the job offer Thursday (not contracted). The pay is pretty much the same (2,000 yearly difference) but with a 5 k sign on bonus (so only one bonus not yearly) but again its NOT in tech and I probably won't be getting a lot of raises- its not that type of company but it seems more chill.

I always wanted be in tech cuz that's where the money is at (and my taurus ass LOVES money- its a bad trait of mine lol I admit) and if I do get on-boarded I will most likely be making more by like 20-30 grand. And right now I still have benefits but shitty benefits in comparison to what the Tech company provides but the new job gives pretty decent benefits as well.

So do I take the more stable/reliable route - aka the new job with better benefits than the contracted one or do I stick it out in the tech world for the potential money and even BETTER benefits?

I can't make decisions to save my life and told the new company I will let them know by Monday. Please help.

I’m a Taurus too so I can relate, some of the most important things to me are comfort, security, stability, peace of mind and money of course. I now work at Starbucks and after being depressed and mostly being home, unemployed I’m the happiest and at peace I can ever remember being. I’m pretty indecisive myself but when it comes to making life altering choices ask yourself this:
Do you love what you’re currently doing?
Do you love working with the people you work with?
How long do you have to keep working to retire?
Can you keep going at this pace at your current job?
For the years you have to keep working, will the money you keep making be enough to keep you fulfilled?
Is the new job something you can be passionate about?
At the end you do have to decide if the money or the potential better benefits are worth stressing and sacrificing your sleep over.

[bekind]

Hi guys, I joined this group in August when I started having a HUGE crush on Eminem. You know how when you have a crush on someone you exhaust all your options of extracting as much information about them as possible. You stalk them, their exes, their families on social media, talk to your friends about them , zoom in on their pictures and watch their videos on repeat, I’ve done all that. There’s not many personal updates, new interviews, new dating life information about Eminem on the internet and it kills me. It’s been 9 months and I’m still sick fantasizing about Eminem. It’s dumb but I’ve convinced myself that SOMEHOW, WITH A LOT OF MAGIC and A LOT OF LUCK, I’m gonna run into Eminem and we’ll “organically” start dating and fall in love. I’m actually concerned because I don’t want to be trapped living in this fantasy that will most likely stay a fantasy. I don’t want to turn into an obsessive weirdo, that’s scary stuff. I need help guys. If you guys feel this way or sometimes think this even for a slight second please let me know so I feel less stupid.

[Admin]

Apr 17, 2022 2:27:05 GMT -5 bekind said:

Hi guys, I joined this group in August when I started having a HUGE crush on Eminem. You know how when you have a crush on someone you exhaust all your options of extracting as much information about them as possible. You stalk them, their exes, their families on social media, talk to them about your friends, zoom in on their pictures and watch their videos on repeat, I’ve done all that. There’s not many personal updates, new interviews, new dating life information about Eminem on the internet and it kills me. It’s been 9 months and I’m still sick fantasizing about Eminem. It’s dumb but I’ve convinced myself that SOMEHOW, WITH A LOT OF MAGIC and A LOT OF LUCK, I’m gonna run into Eminem and we’ll “organically” start dating and fall in love. I’m actually concerned because I don’t want to be trapped living in this fantasy that will most likely stay a fantasy. I don’t want to turn into an obsessive weirdo, that’s scary stuff. I need help guys. If you guys feel this way or sometimes think this even for a slight second please let me know so I feel less stupid.

Crushes are normal and common. It's not something you need to be harsh on yourself about. But it's important to not let it become an obsession. Focusing on improving your overall mental health can help. Therapy can help. But also finding hobbies and other interests can help. Exercise and eating healthy, etc.

[me]

Apr 16, 2022 15:44:34 GMT -5 matty said:

You guys I need advice

So in November I got a new job in tech but it was contracted role (but I took it cuz everyone said I will be onboarded and everyone in my department was once a contracted and go onboarded within a year and it paid way more than I was making prior even as a contractor). And the past few months I have been working 10-12 hour days to finish this almost impossible project and finally finished and I think really impressed my team.

However, the organization of all of the departments I worked with was a nightmare and it was super stressful but I was able to pull it off but with sleepless nights but again with a lot of stress

So while going through this I got poached for another job and I got the job offer Thursday (not contracted). The pay is pretty much the same (2,000 yearly difference) but with a 5 k sign on bonus (so only one bonus not yearly) but again its NOT in tech and I probably won't be getting a lot of raises- its not that type of company but it seems more chill.

I always wanted be in tech cuz that's where the money is at (and my taurus ass LOVES money- its a bad trait of mine lol I admit) and if I do get on-boarded I will most likely be making more by like 20-30 grand. And right now I still have benefits but shitty benefits in comparison to what the Tech company provides but the new job gives pretty decent benefits as well.

So do I take the more stable/reliable route - aka the new job with better benefits than the contracted one or do I stick it out in the tech world for the potential money and even BETTER benefits?

I can't make decisions to save my life and told the new company I will let them know by Monday. Please help.

For me it’s a lot about the people I work with! Having great colleagues and a supportive team is something I would prioritize. I could work at another company with a lot better salary doing pretty much the same as I do now, but I know the company I work at is known for their great and welcoming work environment. (So this taurus chose people over money… lol)
It also depends on the stress I’d say. I have sometimes extremely stressful episodes, but at the same time I love what I do, and it’s the job I’ve wanted for so long, so I tend to give myself more “stress” situations than I would have to, because - what I’ve learned about myself is - I work the best under pressure, and “stressing” at work gives me an adrenaline high that makes me more efficient and makes me do better. And I enjoy it. But it’s also a “positive stress” if that makes sense? That I’ve given myself. And I’ve learned to recognize the signs in my body when it’s getting to be too much, so I can slow down before I crash. I’ve gotten quite the reputation at work, I’m efficient and fast and people fight over me because they all want me in their project. Makes me feel good and appreciated at work, which motivates me to take on more. But again this is a “positive stress” I’ve given myself. If I had the same kind of negative stress and I wouldn’t feel good about it or it would exhaust me in a negative way, I would never choose it.
I know money is very tempting but money isn’t always everything.
I would say which job makes you feel better about yourself? Which job do you enjoy more? What about the people you work with? Does the work inspire and motivate you? If you have a vacation, how does it feel going back? Do you hate it or is it not that bad?

[matty]

me annie18 bekind

Thank you all for your feedback! I am horrible at making decisions and hearing everybody’s thought process helps me a lot

I also talked to some friends and my dad and I think I know what I’m going to do but not 100% lol but I’ll keep y’all posted 😭

[annie18]

So, I was on Gorillaz mode these last weeks, I finally got the chance to see them last Saturday and it was amazing, my whole body hurts but it was totally worth the experience haha, I crossed that from my bucket list now I need to see Em!!!!