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Post by willowmoonblood on Dec 29, 2016 11:05:38 GMT -5
You guys...I wanted to tell you I´ve been a bit down and not much around in any social media for like the past 2 months, I know you may not care about this post but I came to need to vent a bit here because many of you respond and help me although we don´t even know each other. So I started go to couples therapy with my boyfriend because we both have personal shitty moments in our lives and was starting to get to us and our relationship so he suggested it and I listen (because how many times a non believer in psychology is going to ask you to go to therapy?) and we came to the consideration of me leaving his house and go somewhere else...and guess who went all impulsive and pack her bags?...yep...I left the next day without really having somewhere else to go (probably that wasn´t the smartest decision ever I know), I was living for a week at a friend´s house but then her family came for vacations so I had to leave, went to another friend´s house but then she went on vacation so I had to leave, called out my dad and after 3 days making me feel like shit and how I was never gonna achieve a fucking thing in my life because I never think about my actions and consecuences (yeah right, like he knows me that well after leaving me and my family almost 10 years ago) he finally allowed me to stay in his counch so...I´m here...I feel like shit, his wife ignores me and I have to keep calm and try to pull through to be better with my boyfriend, to graduate in March and get a job and move out (what a resolution list for 2017!). To end all, my mother was diagnoticated with cancer (seriously, 3 people in my family with cancer at the same time is like exhausting) so I´ve been pretty down but I guess I should log in here more often now because it will really cheer me up to log in and see a new Em album I am so sorry that you have so much on your plate at this time. Hopefully the time between now and March will fly by and you can get a job soon. As for you and your boyfriend. Have you ever read the book the Five Love Languages? It really helped my husband and I. Even if you don't want to buy the book you can google the title and it will bring up a website to take the quiz and give you a little info about each language and you can start practicing now. My language is Affirmation and his is acts of service. He would never give me affirmation and I didn't understand him cooking dinner was his way of saying I love you LOL. I could acutally go on and on about this book and a few others that I found that kinda follow the same principle. If you are interested just let me know. Again sorry you are going through so much I am sending postive vibes your way.
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Post by cally on Dec 29, 2016 11:29:29 GMT -5
You guys...I wanted to tell you I´ve been a bit down and not much around in any social media for like the past 2 months, I know you may not care about this post but I came to need to vent a bit here because many of you respond and help me although we don´t even know each other. So I started go to couples therapy with my boyfriend because we both have personal shitty moments in our lives and was starting to get to us and our relationship so he suggested it and I listen (because how many times a non believer in psychology is going to ask you to go to therapy?) and we came to the consideration of me leaving his house and go somewhere else...and guess who went all impulsive and pack her bags?...yep...I left the next day without really having somewhere else to go (probably that wasn´t the smartest decision ever I know), I was living for a week at a friend´s house but then her family came for vacations so I had to leave, went to another friend´s house but then she went on vacation so I had to leave, called out my dad and after 3 days making me feel like shit and how I was never gonna achieve a fucking thing in my life because I never think about my actions and consecuences (yeah right, like he knows me that well after leaving me and my family almost 10 years ago) he finally allowed me to stay in his counch so...I´m here...I feel like shit, his wife ignores me and I have to keep calm and try to pull through to be better with my boyfriend, to graduate in March and get a job and move out (what a resolution list for 2017!). To end all, my mother was diagnoticated with cancer (seriously, 3 people in my family with cancer at the same time is like exhausting) so I´ve been pretty down but I guess I should log in here more often now because it will really cheer me up to log in and see a new Em album I am so sorry that you have so much on your plate at this time. Hopefully the time between now and March will fly by and you can get a job soon. As for you and your boyfriend. Have you ever read the book the Five Love Languages? It really helped my husband and I. Even if you don't want to buy the book you can google the title and it will bring up a website to take the quiz and give you a little info about each language and you can start practicing now. My language is Affirmation and his is acts of service. He would never give me affirmation and I didn't understand him cooking dinner was his way of saying I love you LOL. I could acutally go on and on about this book and a few others that I found that kinda follow the same principle. If you are interested just let me know. Again sorry you are going through so much I am sending postive vibes your way. Thanks!! yes, I´m interesting in the books!! I have read a few and I´m doing my thesis about couples comunication and therapy (how ironic!) so it would help me one way or another if you give me some books ideas, PM me any other books you´ve read and helped you. THANKS AGAIN!!
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Post by GG102 on Dec 29, 2016 11:51:34 GMT -5
So sorry to read about all the pain in your life, cally. But stay strong and remember...2017 is literally just around the corner!
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Post by matty on Dec 30, 2016 22:57:10 GMT -5
cally I'm so sorry!! I hope things will change for you soon! You never know what's around the corner girl
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Post by sophiemom on Jan 25, 2017 0:10:09 GMT -5
Hey I had a big interview today with a good company for a really good job. Its just exactly what I have been looking for. Good pay and benefits! I wish I was not so excited because there is always a chance it won't go my way. Anyway wish me luck! Been out of work for a while! :4w
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Post by GG102 on Jan 25, 2017 14:39:14 GMT -5
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Post by matty on Jan 25, 2017 15:09:42 GMT -5
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Post by me on Jan 25, 2017 15:37:32 GMT -5
Hey I had a big interview today with a good company for a really good job. Its just exactly what I have been looking for. Good pay and benefits! I wish I was not so excited because there is always a chance it won't go my way. Anyway wish me luck! Been out of work for a while! :4w Keeping my fingers crossed for you sophiemom !
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Post by tcat on Jan 25, 2017 17:11:31 GMT -5
Hey I had a big interview today with a good company for a really good job. Its just exactly what I have been looking for. Good pay and benefits! I wish I was not so excited because there is always a chance it won't go my way. Anyway wish me luck! Been out of work for a while! :4w Best of luck!!!
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Post by willowmoonblood on Jan 27, 2017 9:25:23 GMT -5
Hey I had a big interview today with a good company for a really good job. Its just exactly what I have been looking for. Good pay and benefits! I wish I was not so excited because there is always a chance it won't go my way. Anyway wish me luck! Been out of work for a while! :4w Good luck! I really hope you get the job!
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Post by willowmoonblood on Mar 10, 2017 13:01:18 GMT -5
I just need to vent...my husband is on this big "mindfulness" kick and right now I don't want to be mindful of someone else actions, I just want to pout because they are mean. Basically I am sick of trying to be nice to people and they in turn talking to me any type of way. I had a run in with a mother in the girl scout troop I am the leader of. She felt I did not give her enough notice (four days) that the money for the cookies her child sold was due at the end of the sale (you know just like the previous three years ) so after several not so nice texts to me basically saying I was a failure as a leader because I did not send her reminders every week that she actually had to pay the money back on a certain day she told me she would have it to me by the due date. Due date came and went no word from her. The next morning I texted and said "Hey I have to put the money in the bank this morning. I also have to let council know if we can not make that last payment, thanks" She owed 3170.00 in money. She finally responded brought me the money basically throwing it at me and said " I don't appricate you THREATING ME" Seems she was out of town last week and didn't make it back in until late Sunday that was why she didn't bring the money. No texts telling me this, no text saying I will bring Monday morning, nothing. Through all of this I had to remain professional and I actually apoligzed to her FOUR times! For not being able to read her mind I guess. I think what upset me most about this is I have shared with the mothers in the troop that I have several anxieties, and they all know that in past years families have fallen short when it came to turning in all the money which in turned set off my anxieties. A simple text to me would have saved me some sleepless nights. Then this morning, I received a message from a seller on Ebay. I have ordered a magazine I had been looking for and basically the info I received stated it has been shipped and would arrive to me by March 6th. March 8th nothing. So I sent (what I thought) was a message to the seller asking about tracking info since I had not received the Mag, my fear was it was delivered to the wrong house. I have never had something not arrive to me so I have never had to contact a seller after payement. They replied back something to the effect of "Sorry family emergancy, didn't get mailed out till a couple of days later you should get it shortly. Next time just message me instead of opening up a claim, I will send tracking info when I return from this business trip" Maybe I am too sensitive but I felt that was a bit rude. How was I to know that it wasn't shipped until later when you had marked it shipped on the site? Again a simple note saying something to the effect of "hey things going on will ship item shortly" would have solved me even having to contact anyone. Sorry for the long rant/vent. I guess I am just in a don't be nice to people because they take that as weak mood this month LOL
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Post by matty on Mar 10, 2017 20:54:47 GMT -5
willowmoonbloodI'm sorry people can be so frustrating sometimes. I hope your weekend is relaxing at least!
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Post by sparrow on Mar 10, 2017 21:50:13 GMT -5
I just need to vent...my husband is on this big "mindfulness" kick and right now I don't want to be mindful of someone else actions, I just want to pout because they are mean. Basically I am sick of trying to be nice to people and they in turn talking to me any type of way. I had a run in with a mother in the girl scout troop I am the leader of. She felt I did not give her enough notice (four days) that the money for the cookies her child sold was due at the end of the sale (you know just like the previous three years ) so after several not so nice texts to me basically saying I was a failure as a leader because I did not send her reminders every week that she actually had to pay the money back on a certain day she told me she would have it to me by the due date. Due date came and went no word from her. The next morning I texted and said "Hey I have to put the money in the bank this morning. I also have to let council know if we can not make that last payment, thanks" She owed 3170.00 in money. She finally responded brought me the money basically throwing it at me and said " I don't appricate you THREATING ME" Seems she was out of town last week and didn't make it back in until late Sunday that was why she didn't bring the money. No texts telling me this, no text saying I will bring Monday morning, nothing. Through all of this I had to remain professional and I actually apoligzed to her FOUR times! For not being able to read her mind I guess. I think what upset me most about this is I have shared with the mothers in the troop that I have several anxieties, and they all know that in past years families have fallen short when it came to turning in all the money which in turned set off my anxieties. A simple text to me would have saved me some sleepless nights. Then this morning, I received a message from a seller on Ebay. I have ordered a magazine I had been looking for and basically the info I received stated it has been shipped and would arrive to me by March 6th. March 8th nothing. So I sent (what I thought) was a message to the seller asking about tracking info since I had not received the Mag, my fear was it was delivered to the wrong house. I have never had something not arrive to me so I have never had to contact a seller after payement. They replied back something to the effect of "Sorry family emergancy, didn't get mailed out till a couple of days later you should get it shortly. Next time just message me instead of opening up a claim, I will send tracking info when I return from this business trip" Maybe I am too sensitive but I felt that was a bit rude. How was I to know that it wasn't shipped until later when you had marked it shipped on the site? Again a simple note saying something to the effect of "hey things going on will ship item shortly" would have solved me even having to contact anyone. Sorry for the long rant/vent. I guess I am just in a don't be nice to people because they take that as weak mood this month LOL I feel you, willow. The other day at work I was sweeping the office area and a co-worker commented I missed a spot. I made a obvious joke; a silly comment that it was hard to sweep when you're left handed (it is--you want to hold the broom in that leftie-holding-a-pencil way). This bitch laughs with me and then reported me for refusing to sweep because I'm left handed! Nice people really do finish last.
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Post by willowmoonblood on Mar 10, 2017 21:52:16 GMT -5
I just need to vent...my husband is on this big "mindfulness" kick and right now I don't want to be mindful of someone else actions, I just want to pout because they are mean. Basically I am sick of trying to be nice to people and they in turn talking to me any type of way. I had a run in with a mother in the girl scout troop I am the leader of. She felt I did not give her enough notice (four days) that the money for the cookies her child sold was due at the end of the sale (you know just like the previous three years ) so after several not so nice texts to me basically saying I was a failure as a leader because I did not send her reminders every week that she actually had to pay the money back on a certain day she told me she would have it to me by the due date. Due date came and went no word from her. The next morning I texted and said "Hey I have to put the money in the bank this morning. I also have to let council know if we can not make that last payment, thanks" She owed 3170.00 in money. She finally responded brought me the money basically throwing it at me and said " I don't appricate you THREATING ME" Seems she was out of town last week and didn't make it back in until late Sunday that was why she didn't bring the money. No texts telling me this, no text saying I will bring Monday morning, nothing. Through all of this I had to remain professional and I actually apoligzed to her FOUR times! For not being able to read her mind I guess. I think what upset me most about this is I have shared with the mothers in the troop that I have several anxieties, and they all know that in past years families have fallen short when it came to turning in all the money which in turned set off my anxieties. A simple text to me would have saved me some sleepless nights. Then this morning, I received a message from a seller on Ebay. I have ordered a magazine I had been looking for and basically the info I received stated it has been shipped and would arrive to me by March 6th. March 8th nothing. So I sent (what I thought) was a message to the seller asking about tracking info since I had not received the Mag, my fear was it was delivered to the wrong house. I have never had something not arrive to me so I have never had to contact a seller after payement. They replied back something to the effect of "Sorry family emergancy, didn't get mailed out till a couple of days later you should get it shortly. Next time just message me instead of opening up a claim, I will send tracking info when I return from this business trip" Maybe I am too sensitive but I felt that was a bit rude. How was I to know that it wasn't shipped until later when you had marked it shipped on the site? Again a simple note saying something to the effect of "hey things going on will ship item shortly" would have solved me even having to contact anyone. Sorry for the long rant/vent. I guess I am just in a don't be nice to people because they take that as weak mood this month LOL I feel you, willow. The other day at work I was sweeping the office area and a co-worker commented I missed a spot. I made a obvious joke; a silly comment that it was hard to sweep when you're left handed (it is--you want to hold the broom in that leftie-holding-a-pencil way). This bitch laughs with me and then reported me for refusing to sweep because I'm left handed! Nice people really do finish last. I am sorry that happened to you...makes you or me at least want to go postal on someone LOL
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Post by me on Mar 11, 2017 1:54:14 GMT -5
I just need to vent...my husband is on this big "mindfulness" kick and right now I don't want to be mindful of someone else actions, I just want to pout because they are mean. Basically I am sick of trying to be nice to people and they in turn talking to me any type of way. I had a run in with a mother in the girl scout troop I am the leader of. She felt I did not give her enough notice (four days) that the money for the cookies her child sold was due at the end of the sale (you know just like the previous three years ) so after several not so nice texts to me basically saying I was a failure as a leader because I did not send her reminders every week that she actually had to pay the money back on a certain day she told me she would have it to me by the due date. Due date came and went no word from her. The next morning I texted and said "Hey I have to put the money in the bank this morning. I also have to let council know if we can not make that last payment, thanks" She owed 3170.00 in money. She finally responded brought me the money basically throwing it at me and said " I don't appricate you THREATING ME" Seems she was out of town last week and didn't make it back in until late Sunday that was why she didn't bring the money. No texts telling me this, no text saying I will bring Monday morning, nothing. Through all of this I had to remain professional and I actually apoligzed to her FOUR times! For not being able to read her mind I guess. I think what upset me most about this is I have shared with the mothers in the troop that I have several anxieties, and they all know that in past years families have fallen short when it came to turning in all the money which in turned set off my anxieties. A simple text to me would have saved me some sleepless nights. Then this morning, I received a message from a seller on Ebay. I have ordered a magazine I had been looking for and basically the info I received stated it has been shipped and would arrive to me by March 6th. March 8th nothing. So I sent (what I thought) was a message to the seller asking about tracking info since I had not received the Mag, my fear was it was delivered to the wrong house. I have never had something not arrive to me so I have never had to contact a seller after payement. They replied back something to the effect of "Sorry family emergancy, didn't get mailed out till a couple of days later you should get it shortly. Next time just message me instead of opening up a claim, I will send tracking info when I return from this business trip" Maybe I am too sensitive but I felt that was a bit rude. How was I to know that it wasn't shipped until later when you had marked it shipped on the site? Again a simple note saying something to the effect of "hey things going on will ship item shortly" would have solved me even having to contact anyone. Sorry for the long rant/vent. I guess I am just in a don't be nice to people because they take that as weak mood this month LOL Aww I'm so sorry! I don't think you've done anything wrong, and definitely nothing you need to apologize for! But I know the feeling, I'm the same way. And I think if you've bought something, you have a right to ask, even if no one said anything about shipment, but especially if there has been possible arrival date. Nothing wrong with that. I totally feel you tho! Not to give a sob story about myself or anything, but to try and make a long story short, we have an assistant at school, that fails to do her work almost every day. No one knows why she's working in the school, because she hates kids, she hates the job, she hates the two classes per week she has to be a teacher because she has no idea what she's supposed to do with the students, she doesn't wanna help them with their homework, she doesn't wanna go outside during the breaks, she doesn't want any sick kids in the same classroom where she has to be... you get the point. I've done as I always do, I keep my mouth shut and do every single thing that people ask me to. I also feel like I'm the new guy and I don't have education in this field, so I'm in no position to question anything or say no to anyone. But the teachers have been really happy with me. They're sometimes fighting over who gets me in their class, lol. I have also cleaned up a lot after this assistant. All I've ever heard all fall is "Karin forgot to do this, can you do it? Karin didn't want to do this, can you do it? Karin forgot this, can you fix it? Karin messed up this can you fix it? karin didn't show up today, can you take care of this? etc etc, and everytime I've been asked to fix something this woman forgot, I've kept my mouth shut and just did it. In school if you have an idea, you share it, and I've shared a lot of ideas with the teachers and they've used quite a lot of my ideas, thinking they worked really great with the kids. So this other assistant has 2 hours a week where she's a teacher, with a teachers salary, and she always complain about these classes, that she doesn't know what to do and she doesn't wanna have these classes, and eventually she asked me to take over one of these classes, so now she has one left. So here 3 weeks ago she was gone for one day and asked if I can take her class with the first graders, and I said of course, and can I plan the class myself? (since she obviously hates it and always just lets the kids do whatever they want). The week's theme was lizards, so I found some cool 3D lizards we were supposed to do, but then the this class' real teacher suggested I could also do heart decorations for valentine's day. This assistant was supposed to be with me in the class for 10 minutes before she had to leave for the day, and asked if I found a good lizard model. I said "the teacher wanted us to do valentine's day decorations, but I have a good lizard model if you'd like to do it next week". She hissed at me "fine you do all the planning, but I'm keeping the salary!" and I'm like uumm? The students come in and I have planned a little info about valentine's day, I'm gonna ask them if they know what we're celebrating and why etc... And this assistant stands up in front of the class and says "it's valentine's day next week, you're gonna make hearts." there goes my info... When she's about to start telling the kids HOW to make the hearts, which I hadn't told her, and I had printed out pics and ideas from the internet, I politely asked her if I could take over now (since this was the class she asked me to have) and she just storms out. At the end of the day, I get a call from the principal if I could come to a meeting, that this assistant has something she needs to get off her chest. So we have a meeting where this woman is sitting there in front of the principal, lashing out at me, that I've criticized her the entire fall and I keep telling her her classes and the way she teaches aren't good enough, and that the job she's doing isn't good enough, and she can always feel this critique coming from me. I couldn't believe it!! All I've ever done is pick up after her, and listen to her complaints, and I have not said a word, I have just saved her ass from angry teachers, and this is the thanks I get? At first I kept asking her to give me examples of how I've criticized her (so I could change) but she couldn't come up with one single example. Eventually she said "well once you told me how I should do a homework with one student" (my mom's student, where my mom explained a detailed, complicated homework, and asked me to tell this woman, who usually just sends the kids home if she doesn't understand their homework, or just never shows up, so I get to step in anyways). Then she said that I told her they were gonna make hearts today, but then I felt the need to plan her next week's class as well, because I didn't think her planning was good enough. I'm like "no, I had two classes planned, I just offered you the other one if you wanted to use it". Towards the end of the meeting I couldn't even say anything anymore because I would just have started crying, which is what I did the entire evening, and still the next day at school. Like how the fuck am I supposed to understand that if all the teachers love my ideas and are grateful for them, one assistant is offended by them? I'm so done cleaning up after her. She's on her own now. I have no respect for that woman anymore. The principal is great tho, she saw how sad I got and actually called me the next day and said I'm doing a great job and not to care about this woman. Everyone is complaining about her and she fails to do her work all the time and with someone fixing up after her and getting appreciated for it, the principal guessed she felt threatened. And she had to take it out on someone, and I was the new guy and the easiest target and this woman tried to pull rang on me. The teacher actually told me that during my 8 months now without an education in the field, I've come so much further as an assistant than this woman has the last 30 years. LOL. I still have a hard time looking at this woman tho. She got me to a whole new level of Just Don't Give a Fuck. Sorry this got super long! I try not to let this incident bother me, but I'm still hurt. Getting shit when you really haven't done anything wrong, really sucks! Guess if I was the one who apologized to this woman during the meeting with the principal? Yes...
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